3 Healers From The Pain Of Unreciprocated Love

Anything that painfully distracts you is not good. Suffering from ‘unrequited love’ brings the same fate. Yes, healing it is urgently needed as it gives pain and suffering and nothing else. Why? Love is not a decision; it’s a mutual sharing of likeness. You can’t ask anyone to love deliberately, then why inflict pain and suffering on yourself and lead a dejected life.

Although archaic concept it might seem yet it’s truly relevant in the present context. Every time your ‘one-sided love interest’ calls you ‘just friends’ or not even looks at you, it can be really traumatizing. It hurts all the more when love and longing are not reciprocated. Knowing the suffering along with the healing ways would let you come out of this make believe world.

Does the whole notion of unrequited love seem to be obsolete? As a matter of fact, it is not so. Innumerable people are still searching for the easiest ways to get rid of the hangover of these types of love affairs on the internet. Natural human feeling of love hasn’t transformed overtime, much like William Shakespeare, the much celebrated and famous writer, wrote “Love is the most beautiful of dreams and the worst of nightmares.”

At some turn in our lives, anyone could go through the paining phase of unreturned love. Some try to accept it while for others it becomes an obsession.

The obsessed people think they can only live and become complete when they have their beloved is with them forever. Seriousness of the situation springs up when these people think their life is not at all meaningful without their beloved. When life looses meaning, depression steps in.

Have you ever felt like “She/he hovers on my mind every time” OR “I am unable to focus my on anything other than him/her”? Any person smitten by so called charm of unrequited love takes the pain associated with it to be permanent. He/she thinks it can’t be cured ever. “Things would remain the same and won’t change their stand” is what constantly goes on in the mind of people obsessed with this ‘one-sided love affair’.

While loving someone with all your soul, though sometimes unreciprocated, you never think even in nightmares that you have to forget about him/her after a certain time. It’s really painful for everyone and anyone.

Unreciprocated love brings with it depression, sleeplessness, anxiety and more similar perplexing and disturbing symptoms. Everything goes out of life- enjoyment, brightness, contact with loved ones (other than your beloved) and other pessimistic things of life.

It is not that you would have to deal with this unresponsive love and really damaging pangs of it forever. There are ways through which you can heal yourself from this painful and nor so meaningful feeling. Given below are real eye opening suggestions for it.

1. Can’t You See they are Just Not Interested

How can you ignore the reality behind this unresponsive love? Simply understand that the person in question is not in love with you. Leave aside love; he/she is just not interested in you. Why wasting your precious life due to someone not caring for it? Instead, focus on people who love you and care for you. They can be folks from your friend circle or your family.

2. Understand, there is Nothing Wrong with You

If your so called beloved doesn’t loves you back, it never implies you are not beautiful or intelligent or are lack something. Remember, there is no one like you nor can be. This is the best way to come out of the depression and negativity which this unrequited love forces you in. Why does he/she not loves me? This question naturally arrests your mind. Just understand that some people are not good at respecting other’s feelings.

3. Open Up Your Eyes to Someone who Needs You

After all, you are a human being and it can happen that you never felt that you are entering the lane which is not meant for you. Start afresh. Yes, there is nothing wrong in it. There might be someone who needs you and is ready to offer you that emotional and moral support you need.

Hold his/her hands. Don’t let him/her go away. It may be quite possible that this other person has to go through the same thing, out of which you are trying to come out.

You need to know the real difference between true love and infatuation or unrequited love. True love never inflicts pain or suffering. It is responsive and your real beloved, present there for you always.

A great line by the famous philosopher Charlie Brown says it all- “Nothing takes the taste out of peanut butter quite like unrequited love.” Get up. Focus on brighter part of life and shun this unrequited love. Keep in your mind, ‘LOVE is happiness and not sadness’.